"Take a moment to take a step back and watch yourself on the dates. To get your mindset into the right place, practice mindfulness the day of your date.
"Do whatever it takes for you to be in a good headspace.
The key point here is that you do it during the beginning stages, not when things turn ~exclusive.~ That way you won't feel the urge to rush things or become obssessive.
Having a concrete plan takes the stress out of a date, so take it a step further: Have a blueprint for if your date is a total dud as well as a total winner.
Clicking with someone is like the perfect storm: A lot of things have to come together to make it work.
So don't take it as a crushing blow if your storm didn't quite manage to hit the scales; you're still a babe of a catch.
Lots of people describe 'bad dates' based on whether they fancy the other person or not, but if you arrange to do something fun you can end up having a good time, regardless of whether you're attracted to your date or not." In the end you'll have a wonderful evening, regardless if you get a goodbye kiss.
While knowing the person across from you thinks you're a hot tamale is great, don't make the date about earning their approval or desire.
There are ways to make dating fun, not stressful, and they all revolve on your mindset going in.
While a lot of people have daydreams about finding their very own Tom Hanks or Meg Ryan in the rom-com that is the dating world, if you come in expecting cartoon hearts to hit your eyes with every date you have, things are going to be a little rocky for you.
And that's not because it's impossible to find love — it's because that's way too much pressure! For example, you meet a handsome stranger at a cool bar you've been dying to try, and you get to listen to stories as you nibble away on appetizers.
Relationship Coach Jordan Gray explained, "If you are honest with yourself and your date about what your intentions are then you can leave all of the brain-clogging 'Is this a date? "Dating these days is a bit of a numbers game, but you can use that to your advantage.
In the early stages, talk to more than one person at a time so that you don't dwell on one person too much, and read into messages unnecessarily," Lester advises.
Samantha Burns, Licensed Counselor and Dating Coach, shares with Bustle via email, "Remember that your date needs to fit comfortably into your life.